A friend was just commenting on a different social media site about how all of their friends who were not previously inclined towards lives as solitary hermits (pre-Covid) seem to be going feral right now, and maybe that's a reasonably accurate description of what's happening in general this August?
I don't know.
I just know that right now it feels as though dealing with people is sucking all the time and energy out of me, leaving me anxious about all of the work I need to do that requires deep focus and concentration. I read it as a form of displacement behavior: they're anxious, so the coping mechanism being deployed is riling up other people until other, non-anxious people are anxious, too!
Just stop it, people. That's too much mental overhead and it's unproductive and unnecessary. I have enough of my own anxiety as it is and I really don't need yours, nor do I need to do your emotional labor for you.
...And by virtue of complaining about it here, I am now thinking this means I need to reestablish personal boundaries for myself.
It might be time to start closing my personal email account during the day.
I also need to figure out a way to put myself on a timer or something when it comes to text messages. I'm okay with people texting me if it's an emergency, but now I'm getting WAY too much braindump and concern-troll texting, such that I might just need to completely ignore my phone. For me, concern-troll texting is using things such as last night's interesting weather as an excuse to text me and ask me how I am doing.
Just, no.
Boundaries are really important.
Grump grump grump.
Here we go, Wednesday.
I don't know.
I just know that right now it feels as though dealing with people is sucking all the time and energy out of me, leaving me anxious about all of the work I need to do that requires deep focus and concentration. I read it as a form of displacement behavior: they're anxious, so the coping mechanism being deployed is riling up other people until other, non-anxious people are anxious, too!
Just stop it, people. That's too much mental overhead and it's unproductive and unnecessary. I have enough of my own anxiety as it is and I really don't need yours, nor do I need to do your emotional labor for you.
...And by virtue of complaining about it here, I am now thinking this means I need to reestablish personal boundaries for myself.
It might be time to start closing my personal email account during the day.
I also need to figure out a way to put myself on a timer or something when it comes to text messages. I'm okay with people texting me if it's an emergency, but now I'm getting WAY too much braindump and concern-troll texting, such that I might just need to completely ignore my phone. For me, concern-troll texting is using things such as last night's interesting weather as an excuse to text me and ask me how I am doing.
Just, no.
Boundaries are really important.
Grump grump grump.
Here we go, Wednesday.



