Some time ago I jumped on the trend of watching cleaning videos on the internet, but in my case particularly videos by a neurodivergent person who runs a cleaning business and who donates time and effort to helping out people with hoarding disorders where he can. What I appreciate most about the work is that it involves a sympathetic/empathetic approach, where the goal is to try and develop methods to help people that don't involve forcing things in ways that can potentiate trauma.
Anyway, one of the videos in particular is stuck in my mind, because as the cleaning person works he describes in voiceover some of the patterns he's observed when helping people with ADHD-related hoarding clear out the excess stuff they've accumulated. Specifically, the types of things he finds, over and over again, and what he thinks might be going on with them, such as:
-Jars full of sand or rocks or seashells: collected with the idea that the jar will help the person remember some special place or trip. These are usually unlabeled, and if they're being cleared out that means they didn't actually make it all the way to being put on display somehow.
-Ink pens, so many pens. This might be a "just in case" thing? Yes, much is centered around the possibility of an item, so if there's any possible way a thing might be useful, it is kept.
-Notebooks or journals, usually either blank or with 1-2 pages written on, the rest blank. Related to the excitement around resolving to do something new, to possibility. But then, a lack of follow-through, probably as possibility turns into overwhelm.
-Important stuff intermingled with random stuff - e.g. needed paperwork mixed in with junk mail - which happens with the idea that "I'll just go through this later," except "later" almost never arrives. And the unsorted paperwork tends to accumulate. Manuals, old bills, old programs, birthday cards, and more. I'm personally grateful to a DW blogger for help with how to set up a low-spoons filing system for the actually important paperwork.
-Baskets of loose change.
-Collections - except, they aren't displayed in any way, items are just stashed away in bags and boxes.
Anyway, I think about this video often when trying to organize my own stuff, when out shopping or somewhere where there might be an impulse to acquire a thing, and when visiting the family members and friends I know well enough that I can poke and prod their stuff. This trip, for instance, I've gone through and tested all of the markers, Sharpies, and pencils sitting organized at this desk in the basement, and thinned out the ones that no longer work. (I should note, my mom has been working on conscientiously paring down stuff in this house for very a long time now; she's not a hoarder but generally wants things that can be reused to get reused, and much of the stuff I go through is stuff my siblings and I abandoned at home when we moved away).
In 2026 in New York, I'll continue working on stuff and things in 3 different places: at home, at work, and at the boathouse. Work is probably the space with the most junk at the moment, but I swear there's a reason I have that bowl full of seashells in there.
Anyway, one of the videos in particular is stuck in my mind, because as the cleaning person works he describes in voiceover some of the patterns he's observed when helping people with ADHD-related hoarding clear out the excess stuff they've accumulated. Specifically, the types of things he finds, over and over again, and what he thinks might be going on with them, such as:
-Jars full of sand or rocks or seashells: collected with the idea that the jar will help the person remember some special place or trip. These are usually unlabeled, and if they're being cleared out that means they didn't actually make it all the way to being put on display somehow.
-Ink pens, so many pens. This might be a "just in case" thing? Yes, much is centered around the possibility of an item, so if there's any possible way a thing might be useful, it is kept.
-Notebooks or journals, usually either blank or with 1-2 pages written on, the rest blank. Related to the excitement around resolving to do something new, to possibility. But then, a lack of follow-through, probably as possibility turns into overwhelm.
-Important stuff intermingled with random stuff - e.g. needed paperwork mixed in with junk mail - which happens with the idea that "I'll just go through this later," except "later" almost never arrives. And the unsorted paperwork tends to accumulate. Manuals, old bills, old programs, birthday cards, and more. I'm personally grateful to a DW blogger for help with how to set up a low-spoons filing system for the actually important paperwork.
-Baskets of loose change.
-Collections - except, they aren't displayed in any way, items are just stashed away in bags and boxes.
Anyway, I think about this video often when trying to organize my own stuff, when out shopping or somewhere where there might be an impulse to acquire a thing, and when visiting the family members and friends I know well enough that I can poke and prod their stuff. This trip, for instance, I've gone through and tested all of the markers, Sharpies, and pencils sitting organized at this desk in the basement, and thinned out the ones that no longer work. (I should note, my mom has been working on conscientiously paring down stuff in this house for very a long time now; she's not a hoarder but generally wants things that can be reused to get reused, and much of the stuff I go through is stuff my siblings and I abandoned at home when we moved away).
In 2026 in New York, I'll continue working on stuff and things in 3 different places: at home, at work, and at the boathouse. Work is probably the space with the most junk at the moment, but I swear there's a reason I have that bowl full of seashells in there.
































