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So, I finished reading Nonviolent Communication, as recommended by [livejournal.com profile] bluepapercup a while back.

I would recommend it. I suspect that different people will get different things from reading the book, but altogether I think the basic premises of the book hold true for me. The thing I'm focusing on for the moment is the concept of explicitly tuning in to other peoples' feelings and needs, as well as expressing my own feelings and needs. I think I've identified that this is a point where I often get impatient and struggle.

I am also thinking of the book as a component of my personal interest in pacifism. The Book of Forgiving fits in the same category.

I regret that I did not have a chance to have a more extensive conversation with my dad about a course he's currently taking, on "emotional intelligence." He says it is largely aimed at people working in business settings, but perhaps there are other things to be gleaned from it.

Up next, I'll read a book about sailing.

Date: 2016-11-28 04:23 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bluepapercup.livejournal.com
Glad to hear you enjoyed it! I think it's a worthwhile read, and while I don't agree that it is an appropriate technique for all situations and all people (and in fact can be quite disempowering if forced on a victim of abuse, for example) there are plenty of everyday set ups where some of the NVC ideas can be applied.

Date: 2016-11-28 05:53 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rebeccmeister.livejournal.com
That's a good point regarding the fact that it isn't a blanket approach. I do think that point is partly addressed in the section on the use of force (justified in cases where personal safety is at stake). But yeah - how to deal with people who are trying to be manipulative?

Date: 2016-11-29 01:19 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bluepapercup.livejournal.com
Do you read Captain Awkward? She has so many amazing tips and thoughts on dealing with difficult, manipulative, and abusive people.

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