Oof, yeah.

Date: 2015-04-03 01:13 am (UTC)
ivy: (grey hand-drawn crow)
From: [personal profile] ivy
Yep. At which point I... am sorry that they feel that way? Worst non-apology ever, but it is so precisely because it indicates an actual unwillingness to change. If they're that angry at me, at least in my experience, that divide was crossed already and we each held our lines and now all that we can do is try to make the best new and differently configured world available to us. Which usually involves not talking to them or reading their blog for a couple months to give everyone a chance to cool down.

I think this is also one of those situations where one hopes that one's friends will be the voice of reason if needed... I've mostly learned to close tabs and take people off my Default View if I need that space. And it's not like I have a heartwrenching breakup and then the very next day post "I won a volcanic island and so I'm going to fly off in my private jet to see it and ride my bicycle down the volcano because WHO NEEDS MY EX ANYWAY, VOLCANOES ARE BETTER THAN EXES", but "Mayhem and I went to the grocery store and he bought me Wheat Thins" can still be read that way by someone in pain. I kinda hope that their friends can help them through that, because if it's me that they had the angrymaking break with, I'm in the very worst position to do so and every time I've tried it has gone more horribly than I possibly could have imagined. So I'm not gonna start self-censoring about grocery stores, but I have learned that if I don't want to hear about what a terrible bitch eating Wheat Thins I am (this does not help anyone), to give them some time and space to rebuild their cope and then we can try again once they're there, if they want to.
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