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[rebeccmeister]

This is some of the stuff that keeps on getting a bit lost in my life. It's always nice to have reminders. I just have to keep on trying. The other day I *did* realize that I stopped gossiping about people around me about 3 months ago, and that felt like a really positive change. After all, how can I work on the stuff in my own head if I'm that focused on other people?



A. PRIORITY OF VALUES LIKE TRUTH, LOVE, AND HAPPINESS

1. Acceptance of self, of others, of nature--"not complaining about water because it is wet." Stoic style of calmly accepting even the worst.

2. Identification with the human species--identification with all of humanity versus just their own family, friends, culture, or nation.

3. Emphasis on higher level values:
- WHOLENESS (unity, integration, organization, simplicity, etc.)
- PERFECTION
- COMPLETION
- JUSTICE
- ALIVENESS (process, life, spontaneity, self-regulation [versus. other-controlled], full-functioning)
- RICHNESS (differentiation, complexity, intricacy)
- SIMPLICITY
- BEAUTY
- GOODNESS
- UNIQUENESS (idiosyncrasy, individuality, novelty)
- EFFORTLESSNESS (ease, grace, beautifully functioning)
- PLAYFULNESS (fun, joy, amusement, humor)
- TRUTH (and knowledge?)
- SELF-SUFFICIENCY (autonomy, independence, environment-transcending, [taking care of oneself], separateness, living by own laws)

4. Perception of reality--greater perceptual accuracy of reality. Superior ability to reason and perceive the truth and understand people at a deeper level.

5. Discrimination between means and ends, between good and evil--Clearer and more focused upon ends than most people; though they view their experiences and activities more as ends in themselves than most people.

6. Resolution of dichotomies (conflicts). Resolved conflicts that plague most people, because of their highly developed, accepting philosophy of life.

B. INTERNALLY CONTROLLED

7. Autonomy and resistance to enculturation.

8. Detachment and desire for privacy--high enjoyment of privacy and solitude. Calm and at peace with themselves.

9. Spontaneity, simplicity, naturalness--reflects integration of values and habits. Open, integrated values and habits.

C. HIGH INVOLVEMENT, PRODUCTIVITY, AND HAPPINESS

10. Problem-centering--easily forget self and easily absorbed in tasks they love and/or feel are extremely important.

11. Creativeness--retain an almost childlike fresh, naive, and direct way of looking at life. May be partly a result of other factors such as problem-centering.

12. Freshness of appreciation and richness of emotional reactions--ability to intensely focus on the present and highly involved in it. Very accepting of emotions.

13. High frequency of peak experiences.

D. HIGH QUALITY INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

14. (Intimate) Interpersonal relations--"deeper and more profound interpersonal relations than any other adults." However, these very close relationships are often limited to a very few people. They tend to be kind, patient, affectionate, friendly, and unpretentious; but can be direct and assertive when needed.

15. Democratic character structure--a person's status is unimportant to them. They do respond to differences in values and character.

16. Philosophical, unhostile sense of humor.